Baby animals
Why is it that the faces of animal puppies evoke such positive feelings in people? Almost no matter what kind of animal, the reaction will always be the same.
One important factor is that you do not assume that they are capable of harming you. They are not a source of danger. On the other hand, everyone sympathizes a little with them, since they came to this world not long ago and are now discovering new things in the world.
You can see in them that you can be someone who shows them new things. In addition to the fact that you are not physically afraid of them, you do not feel mentally and emotionally that they want to harm you. You can look at them by accepting them as natural parts of nature who have been given a chance to thrive in this world.
As they grow, get stronger and smarter, there comes a point when you look at them with reservations. The interesting thing is that this point depends on the animal and the person observing it. Think about why this change occurs and why it is not typical for someone to maintain the kind of unconditional loving relationship that the animal cub used to have.
One of the key emotions is, of course, fear. We already assume different things about an adult animal than we do about a baby animal, we no longer consider it so clumsy, we already assume that it considers its own interests - in the case of hunger or the protection of its own physical integrity - more important than the integrity of the person observing it.
What does an individual know who can look at an adult animal with such love?
The first very important thing is that you want to get to know that animal as well as possible. The more you know it, the less you will fear it. As a result, his fear level will be much lower than that of a person who does not know what to expect from that adult animal.
Another component is the observer's self-belief. If he believes that any unusual or dangerous situation arises and he can defend himself against that animal, then his fear level will also be lower.
How interesting that while keeping the fear level low, it is only possible to maintain unconditional love. Think about this again. If this exists between humans and animals, is this kind of connection true between humans as well?
Take the time to put your relationship with the people around you who are connected to you under a magnifying glass and examine whether you have any kind of fear towards them. If you are able to map this, then you have already taken the first step to get rid of these fears.
Another related method is to try to imagine if they might be afraid of you in any way. If you realize that in some way you were or are still able to generate fear in the eyes of another, then if you have the opportunity and you honestly think so, then tell him / them that that fear is not a realistic fear, they have no reason to be afraid. You will never harm them in that way. This practice is very important because you allow them to have the least possible distortion in their love for you.
It sounds logical and you might think that the more you love someone, the more he will love you, but this is not true at all, since he sees himself and you from a completely different perspective than you see him and yourself.
If you are done with these two exercises, then try as a third exercise to imagine that you are an outsider and you see and analyze the relationship between the two of you as clearly as possible without any judgment. If you think you discover weak points, fears, or negative feelings, then communicate this information to both parties and in your imagination create a dialogue where these negative feelings are resolved by both parties.
The fourth and final step of the task is to observe the effect of these exercises in your everyday life. I guarantee you that you will be shocked to see how much simpler, cleaner, and more honest these human relationships can be.
Let this be today's lesson.
